How to be Cool, Funny and Popular
Someone asked me once how can I be cool and popular, how can I get girls to like me and think I am funny? I immediately responded just saying be yourself! Do not take yourself so seriously and learn to laugh at yourself! These qualities will make others feel comfortable around you. Be genuinely interested in others and listen to what they have to say. Smile when you are with others letting them know that you are interested in them.
If you are feeling very self-conscious, listen more than you talk and think about the other, not so much about yourself. Try to be optimistic when you are around others, no one wants to be with someone who is negative all the time. Most importantly, love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you don’t appreciate yourself for who you are.
Self Esteem is where it all starts. Life exists in the moment!The past and the future are only in our thoughts. A small child is not concerned about what will happen in the future or what happened in the past they are ecstatically and deeply involved in the moment. So let yourself become less self-conscious, less worried about what others think and allow yourself to be more involved in your own life. Tell yourself that you are a person with many positive qualities and abilities. Allow each day to be a step forward toward the realization of your goals and reaching your highest potential. When you reach out and help others you are not so concerned about yourself and it makes you fell good.
Choose friends that encourage you to be the best you can be and encourage you to accomplish your goals. It is your thoughts that create your mood and if your thoughts are negative it will drag you down but if you keep positive thoughts going you will feel energetic and happy, it is up to you. Any negative programming you may have had as a child can be let go of and replaced with the truth of who you really are. Allow yourself to be the person you were meant to be. Names you were called or times you were put down were someone else's opinion and they are not who you really are so replace the old conditioning with positive and affirming statements like: “Fear is only a feeling; it cannot hold me back!” or “ When I let go of my self consciousness; I am a really fun and cool person.”
Make friends with people who have the same interests as you and conversation will come much easier. Try to talk to new people everyday even if it is just asking the time and then see if there is something that you can talk about. Give them a complement. Make it truthful and smile see what happens. Be honest and nice to others, respect them, and don’t judge. If you treat people well they will treat you the same.
Say what you want to say and don’t over think it! If you feel you have blundered just make a joke and laugh at yourself soon you will both be laughing together. If they judge/don't approve of something you do, they aren't friends.
Join clubs or have a party, invite the people you would like to be friends with, don’t worry if they don’t come just reaching out can bring people closer and know that you exist.
Think up some start up conversations ahead of time if you are not very spontaneous.
It will help you to break the ice and to start a conversation. Like: Ask someone’s opinion, directions, and advice or ask “how’s your day going?”